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Topic: getting plans approved
 Boy did I go wrong kstar2007 writes: Wed, 08/15/2007 - 7:34pm
Boy did I go wrong somewhere! I had this whole reply typed away for you - and poof - it was gone!
I really apreciate your analysis and your questions about our issues. It's so nice to have found a place amongst friends!
To make a long story short, I've resigned myself to doing projects for my single friends. Hubby is just not "feeling it" here. It's not money, it's where we are. He's a bit of a nomad, always ready to move on. Our house is always just the way I want it when we put the for sale sign in the yard!
 Men! ;) Fidget1479 writes: Sat, 08/18/2007 - 5:28am
It's great that you have friends that will let you do projects for them! I understand the nomad issue. I have friends like that. Always on the move. ;)
It's funny that your husband isn't "feeling it" in your home. Maybe because it's got the previous owners' idea of home, not yours and your husband. Men, sheesh! Your friends are lucky they have you to do projects with and for them! Make sure to post pics of your projects...those are my favorite posts. ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ DIYers, check out www.DCsurfaces.com! Products include: concrete countertops, acid stain, concrete resurfacing and more...  We Have Been There! Her Helper writes: Sun, 01/06/2008 - 8:47am
Fifteen years ago or so I had the same "attitude" as your husband. My wife was eager to redecorate / remodel and I dampered her enthusiasm by my poor attitude. Fortunately, my wife decided to proceed whether I was in favor of her initial DIY project or not. It was the turning point in our marriage. It did not happen over night but in time I came to appreciate her ideas, considerable DIY skills, and her new found self-confidence. She has become a very accomplished DIY, tackling even the biggest project in our home while I have become "Her Helper." I hold her ladder, hand her a needed tool, run errands for her at the local hardware store, ... Her willingness to do what she thought has transformed our marriage.
I am one hubby who can attest to the power of a wife's perserverence.
Her Helper
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Why the disapproval?
Fidget1479 writes:
Wed, 08/15/2007 - 4:47am
Maybe you can start small, do a good job and hopefully get compliments from friends and neighbors. Your husband may be more supportive if he sees you can do a good job. If you do need help, ask a good friend (with a good eye for design) help you out.
Also, take into consideration that your husband does deserve to be comfortable in the home. I love the color purple and if I lived alone every room would probably be painted a shade of purple, but (understandably) my boyfriend doesn't love purple as much as me. As a compromise, we have accents of purple: the bedroom closet door is a pretty shade of lilac that matches the blue walls, the inside of the cabinets are a bold, bright purple that accents the green cabinets.
You shouldn't try to turn "his den" into your scrapbooking palace, or redecorate the bedroom with pink walls and floral patterned bedclothes, but I am sure you can find projects to compromise on.
One last Dr. Phil moment. Communication is one of the most important aspects in a relationship. Talk to him and find out why he's disapproving. Is it too costly? Does he not like the color? Does he just want to come home and relax and not help you? Try to talk out some kind of compromise.
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